Why Men Love Bitches

Bumper-To-Bumper suggested that I need to read Sherry Argov's "Why Men Love Bitches" and lent me the book. Hmmm she thinks I'm way too nice for my own good if I were to hold on my own in my future relationships. I need to learn to be a BITCH, Babe In Total Control of Herself, that is and not a "yes" woman to my man.

There’s a difference between a bitch and a real bitch. The author is talking about a strong woman who knows what she’s doing in life. Someone who will share the load but who will stand her ground. For the bitch, if the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all else. So yes, I will proudly turn myself into a dignified bitch :)

"Why Men Love Bitches" delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy examples on every page, this book delivers a compelling message as to why a woman with a backbone is much more desirable to a man than a "yes" woman who routinely sacrifices herself. This book is not only packed with powerful advice for women, it is seasoned by secret admissions coming directly from men.

The book promises this: "Once you've discovered why men think a feisty attitude is so attractive, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry in the relationship, you'll also gain your man's love and respect with far less effort."

In fact I discovered a lot of things just after reading some pages last night. Hmmm interesting, especially the attraction principles that the author laid out in her book. For example, do you know that anything a person chases in life runs away?

Do you know that the women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren't always exceptional? Often, they are the ones who don't appear to care much.

Do you know that a woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn't feel he has 100 percent hold on her.

Do you know that sometimes a man deliberately won't call, just to see the woman will respond.

Do you know that if you a woman starts out dependent, it turns a man off. But if it is something he can't have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it. When a woman doesn't give in easily and doesn't appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her. More than anything else, a man watches to see if you'll be too emotionally dependent on him. He must feel that the woman chooses to be with him, not that she needs to be with him. Only then will he perceive a woman as an equal partner.

And this classic one: If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he'll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he'll also take time to appreciate who she is. Hahaha so yes, I'll remain celibate. Because sex and "spark" are not one and the same. Before sex, a man isn't thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn't.

Do you know that it is the woman's attitude about herself that a man will adopt. When a man falls in love, it's about your attitude. It's about whether you can hold your own. Which is all about how you hold yourself.

Do you know that you have to act like a prize and you'll turn him into a believer. Because, boys, being boys, being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied.

Do you know that the biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she's not afraid to be without him. A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests.

After reading more than half of the book, I think I would rather be The Bitch than The Doormat. I had been a doormat to my ex-hubby and I think I have allowed him to take me for granted because I was "too nice" and trying too hard to be the perfect wife that he expected me to be. I loved him too much, and I was doing it all wrong. I should have been a bitch, not a sweetie pie.

As former American First Lady, Eleanor Roosevelt said: " No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." I totally agree with her.