Lovers come, lovers go...

I have to agree with American artist, Elizabeth Foley who said, “The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”



Why I'm writing about true friends this time is because I had a tete-a-tete with my best friend Belle of The Party today. She said she oftens worry about me, because I'm very naive and too nice for my own good. Men may take advantage of me and she would hate it if that happens. I gotta hand it to Belle of The Party that I'm not that fortunate enough so far to have found the kind of man Belle of The Party wish for me to have. So I'm keeping away from men for now...

The life partner I should be having, as Belle of The Party puts it: "He is someone who adds value to your life. He makes you want to wake up early every morning, to be the best person you can be because you want him to be proud of you. He has to be able to teach you more things than you ever knew existed. Of course, you too have to add value to his life. Together, you both learn off each other and become inseparable and stronger together."

"That's the kind of man i wish for you. Not someone who's just a seat filler, and who's a good listening buddy. If you only want that, you got the tom, dick and and harry of the universe," she said.

Anyways, I realise that lately I haven't been spending time with my old friends, not even my best friends Belle of The Party, Amazing Grace and Soul Sista, and my Yaya Buddies. I'm like a castaway, adrift in a strange ocean and I'm being blown away further and further by the corporate trade winds. That's how I feel sometimes. Not that I feel lonely, just that I miss them and the good ole times and the fun we used to have together. I don't miss my good times party friends, I just miss my good ole friends, who were there with me during times i needed them around me. I miss them a lot...



Guilty as charged, and I can only offer this alibi...

Weekdays, I would be at work most of my time and I work long hours. After work, sometimes I chat or blog when it's not busy. Weekends, I'd be running my mom's grocery store at my condo building - sometimes I have to rush back before eight to take over from my mom. Sometimes I lepak with my chat friends planning and organising our group outing or just having dinner with them. I no longer have time or passion for toastmasters or Promuda nowadays. I wonder how Amazing Grace managed to juggle her career, family, Promuda and toastmasters.

Go karting I still do but you can count the number of days in a year that I'm on the track nowadays. However, last weekend I helped out in organising the launching of a charity program called Racing for Children that was supported by My-Kart and sponsored by Ronald MacDonald's Children's Charity. The launch was done in conjuntion with a High Performance Challenge in Sepang which I also helped with.

Mountain trekking I still do when I'm not busy with the grocery store. That's one of my ways of spending time with my mom and my brother Shamus. I'm also spending more time with my family nowadays. We have a new arrival, Baby Luth, my first nephew, and he's a bundle of joy :)

I can't imagine having a husband and children with my schedule, really. So I really cannot say whether me not having a child would be a handicap or a blessing at times like thus, it's not easy being a single mom. I know, that coming from a broken home...

A a Malay proverb says, berkawan biar seribu, bercinta biar satu. It means, have a thousand friends, but just one love. I think, you can have a thousand friends but your family and your true friends are what really matters.

Lovers come, lovers go but family and true friends are here to stay...